Distancing Yourself From Your Negative Past
This may help you stay miles away from the dreadful disease of depression. Humans show a systemic tendency to perceive the past as psychologically more prevalent than the present. Depression is often associated with the your past negative events such as an emotional abuse, a loss of a loved one, etc.
All of us have things from the past that haunt us. This is a very uncomfortable feeling which leaves you more devastated when a new problem occurs. That's because you blame yourself for some event or action in your past.
Psychological studies show that 60% of human beings remain more inclined to negatives things from their past rather than the positive things. In the majority of such cases, the negative things tend to become a part of their personalities. This makes their life difficult to live.
Leaving your negative past behind
This important if you want to attempt to live a stress-free life. Holding on to pain or incidents which have emotionally hurt you is normal. After a certain amount of time letting the negative feelings go is necessary. But this varies with the situation. For example, if a person as a child was continuously abused for years, he might face difficulty overcoming his pain and depression. So the amount of time which we are talking about is expected to be more as compared to the one where a person did not get proper attention or care. The intensity of pain leading to depression is different in both cases so the time for recovery varies too.
Some unfortunate things, if continued for years, become a part of you, thus making the world a scary place for you to live in.
The bottom line is that you can leave this unfortunate past behind and move on with your life.
First and foremost, remember, nothing in life comes on a silver platter. To be clear, nothing in life is easy to achieve. You need to really work hard to overcome this past which is dominating your present and still not leaving you. It has left behind traces of pain in your mind leading to a state of depression.
The 4 Keys
1. To start with, get honest with yourself and decide who you want to be, a victim forever or an emotionally strong evolved person. Even though you have been victimized, you do not have to remain a victim.
2. Secondly, you have to understand and remember that what happened in the past cannot be changed. Can it be? No, definitely not! The emotional trauma you have experienced has changed you as a person and has made your life different from what you wanted it to be, but you do have a choice . You don’t have to live in victim consciousness forever. You can move through it if you’re ready to do the mental work that’s needed.
3. Now, close your eyes for several minutes and imagine how your life would look if you don’t visualize yourself as a victim. A life where you see only the positive things of past life around you. Like your friends who have supported you through thick and thin. The hobbies and activities that you enjoy doing, for example, dancing, visiting the places that make you happy, etc. These thoughts will reveal that you are really fine and were never at fault with whatever bad things happened. You are a lovable person and just because a few people failed to understand your worth, doesn’t mean that you have to work to be loved by others.
4. Another thing which you need to really focus on is that time doesn't stay the same, neither do the people around you. Today is different from yesterday and tomorrow will not be the same as today. So, if your past was bad it doesn’t mean that your future will be the same. The same logic applies to the people around you. If a few people have mentally harmed you or caused pain, that doesn’t mean that all the people you meet intend to do the same.
Things change, situations change, and so do people with time. If you live with your fears forever, you will always feel apart from the most wonderful feeling of this world, LOVE. It is a powerful feeling which associates with everything around you, the people, the animals, and the plants. And without love, there is no meaning to Life. Love chases life and life should also chase LOVE.
You are just a decision away from making your present and your future better. If you are reading this article you are already on your way to making yourself better.
Depression is bad, but our thoughts and actions have the power of making them even worse. In most cases, thoughts even have the power to heal everything. So the choice is yours!